I HAVE A LOT
TO SAY
It’s September: Do You Know Where Your Goals Are?
September gives us a clear view of what became real this year and what remained a plan. With four months still ahead, this is the time to decide whether you are ready to take yourself, your goals and the life you want seriously.
You Can’t Outrun Your Problems, but…
You cannot outrun your problems, but that does not mean every environment is equally good for you. A new place will not do your inner work for you, but the right surroundings can give you more energy, clarity and room to grow. Sometimes changing your life means choosing better conditions in which to live it.
Marriage Doesn’t have to Be Hard
We talk about marriage as though struggle proves commitment and surviving another year is an accomplishment in itself. But marriage should not feel like a war. A healthy relationship is built through friendship, intimacy, honesty, growth and the willingness to address problems before they become permanent walls.
The Secret to Doing Big Things
Watching our neighbors build a yurt on a steep, undeveloped piece of land reminded me how rare it is to meet people who actually do the things they talk about. This article explores the difference between doers and wishers, and why action, curiosity, humility, and a good attitude matter far more than perfect timing, expertise, or confidence.
The Slow Death of Hacking Joy
A reflective essay on life hacks, convenience culture, cooking, attention, and the quiet joy of doing things the long way. From peeling garlic to making bread, this piece explores why some parts of life are better because they take time.
The Art of Doing Less
For years, I optimized my life for more - more money, more output, more success without ever questioning where it was all leading. This piece is about what happened when I stepped off the hamster wheel, reclaimed my time, and realized that doing less wasn’t a failure, it was the first step towards real freedom.
The Sunken Cost Fallacy
We often stay with something because of how much time, money, energy, or emotion we have already invested in it. The sunken cost fallacy convinces us that walking away would mean wasting everything we have already put in. Sometimes the greater loss is continuing to give more of your life to something that no longer works.
Hard Things Don’t Have to Hurt
We often confuse suffering with strength. Working ourselves into the ground, tolerating bad situations, and constantly pushing through discomfort may look tough from the outside, but resilience is something different. It is the ability to meet genuine difficulty with steadiness, perspective, and the confidence that you can figure out what comes next.
5 Things I’ll Never Do Again to Please Other People
People-pleasing rarely looks dramatic. It often looks like being helpful, agreeable, reliable, and endlessly available until you realize you have lost track of your own preferences and needs. These are five behaviors I stopped repeating as I learned to set boundaries, ask for what I need, and become more fully myself.
Listen to the little voice
Five years ago I followed a quiet inner voice and moved to Seattle, setting off a chain of life-changing decisions. A reflection on courage, intuition, and how trusting yourself can reshape your entire life.
Wait, I’m a What?
I never thought of myself as a people pleaser. I was independent, outspoken, and capable, yet I had quietly built much of my self-worth around approval, praise, and avoiding disappointment. Recognizing that pattern was uncomfortable, but it was also the beginning of finding my own voice again.